Who Is Steering Your Life? Are You Looking In The Rear View Mirror?

Are you looking in the rear view mirror? Is there a rear view mirror?  Are you planning what YOU want in your life?  What are you doing for you?

Who's Driving?


I wrote this post  3 years ago.. and it was brought back to my attention via a couple of wonderful ladies who I appreciate so much…..   Thank you Leslie Denning and Jacqueline Gates!!  I love this post and would love your feedback!!

How did I get so messed up?





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35 Responses to Who Is Steering Your Life? Are You Looking In The Rear View Mirror?

  1. Nile

    I like to take control of my own life. Sometimes I am more energetic and things get done… other times… it is a time for relaxing, but I’m always living life to the fullest.
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  2. No question, I’m in the driver’s seat when it comes to the direction of my life. It may not always go as planned, but I love the challenges and am enjoying the journey.
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  3. Rick Lelchuk says:


    I like to think I’m in charge of my life. I am certainly not using the rear view mirror to map out a course of action. I’ve been away from some of the motivational parts of my life, things from the past and I’ve been wondering if it isn’t time to reach out to grab them again. Even though I’ve got a couple more mile on me than I did before it ain’t over until the fat lady sings, is it? (Who is the fat lady?)

    Thanks ever so much for the reminder of who’s in charge.

    Yours in health,

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  4. Rachel Williamson

    We usually find out that what has messed us up is lack of understanding….things we hear from adults when we are too young to comprehend. Things that mean people say that we take as truth when they are not. What-so-ever is true, whatsoever is right, think on these things.

  5. I tell you that I make plans each day of how I want my next day to flow. It has three parts always to get me closure to my objective to accomplish. Now, each day is a great adventure based on now matter experience each day is made of up millions of choices we and only we have to make. So, it all depends on which choices I make how the end result of that day will be. I only know we have only control over our choices to make.

    No one can control the day nor the future yet you can make choices you believe that will bring you the direction to the end result you visioned.

    Thank you for allowing us this exercise of visualization.
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  6. Rachel Lavern

    Hi Holly,

    I really believe that we all should have a strategic plan for our life. This plan should point the way to a bright, new future which we have designed. Moving forward…not backwards.
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  7. Ryan Biddulph

    Hi Holly,

    Great reminder! I put my foot on the pedal then know when to let go. Today, my body aches. I feel good overall, but know it is time to get off the computer and enjoy my travels here in India. But I do not look back…..except in a few moments of being human ;)

    Thanks for sharing!

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  8. Sue Bride

    I certainly have held myself back in the past but I do not believe in regrets, just change: learning from mistakes and moving on. I feel I have done that successfully and I am living life my way. I am content with my lot. This does not mean I am standing still, there is always room for improvement and goals are important to motivate us.
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  9. Yorinda Wanner

    Hi Holly,
    sometimes it is good to reflect on what happens to acknowledge feelings we may have suppressed to be able to let them go rather than be stored in our body and ‘fester’. It can also help to gain insights.

    You have shared some great quotes in the post you linked to!
    One that stood out for me is “Life expands or contracts in proportion to one’s courage” Anais Nin
    It also takes courage to truly face ourselves.
    Wouldn’t it be nice if we had a balance of ‘processing’ and forward planning!

    Thank you for sharing your insights!
    Love and Light
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  10. Lesly Federici

    I could take better control of my life as far as health is concerned. I was anxious to visit you because I know what you write about. It’s like avoiding the gym and working out because you don’t want to be seen .. lol :-) Nah, it’s not that bad. I have done some good things, and things I’m still working on and things I avoid. The good news is I’m aware and making changes… You kick me in the butt every time I visit! It’s all good :-)
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  11. Kumar Gauraw

    Hi Holly,
    I steer my life and thank you for that reminder. Occasionally it seems that a situation or another person is trying to take control but when I remember I am bigger than the problem, the control comes back :-)
    I’m fortunate to have that power within and that sense awareness. However, we all need to reminded and I thank you for this reminder!
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  12. Hi Holly, I believe in having a plan for my life and to try to not look back. When you take charge of your life and do something every day to help you move forward in life you can accomplish great things.
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  13. I guess most of us like to think we’re in the driver’s seat, and that’s a good thing to aspire to.

    Truth is, we’re all in the driver’s seat sometimes, but also catch ourselves looking in the rear view mirror at other times. What’s important is that we continually remind ourselves to stay primarily focused on the road ahead, and only occasionally reflect on where we’ve been.
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  14. Chery Schmidt

    Hi Holly! If you are not in the drivers seat then who is? I don’t think I would want to put my life in anyone’s hand! This is a goof wake up call HUH? Thanks for sharing..Chery :))
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  15. I see myself in the drivers seat and whatever is in the rear view mirror is my responsibility, which is a good thing!
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  16. Kyle Nelson

    Everyday I try hard to live my life to the fullest. My goal is not have to “try” to live life to the fullest and just live it. It can be hard through times of hardship but just reminding myself that “things could be worse” and really take a look at my life typically helps. :)
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  17. Wisdom is timeless, so what’s three years? This is an excellent post! And oh yes, there’s a rearview mirror, and I’m afraid I look into it all too often.

    You asked, “What if I changed and someone didn’t like what I became?” A friend of mine used to say no one likes it when you change the rules without their permission. In other words, they don’t like it when YOU change, because you become unpredictable in their eyes.

    Closer to home, some of us don’t want to change because we are afraid of what it will mean personally. “If I give up my _________ (you fill in the blank… illness… weakness…), I will have lost my identity. I won’t know what to do with myself in that strange, new world.”

    But if we want things to improve, we’d BETTER be willing to change!

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  18. Donna Merrill

    What a great post Holly!

    I clicked that link and my favorite quote is “We always experience anxiety wherever we confront the potential of our own development” Soren Kierkegaard

    On a positive note, this quote really got to me because anything new will bring up some anxiety. But as long as we press on and not let us stop in our path we are OK.
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  19. Hi Holly. Thanks for mentioning me. I do have a tendency to dig through people’s blogs, and it’s enlightening to go back to some earlier posts to see what I was thinking. I’m actually republishing some of them. Makes for less work during the week – LOL.

    I like to think I’m steering my own life, with the Lord’s help, and glancinc in the rear view mirror is a good thing – to see how far I’ve come. Not good to keep looking, though. It can cause trouble ahead. Keep up the good work.

    All the best,

    All the best,
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